DBT has ended for me in a fairly unfamiliar way.
Although tough I think I was getting something concrete out of it but my therapist seems to have driven himself into a brick wall.
I cannot be critical. We are a difficult bunch to work with!
However, he has become increasingly elusive during the Covid crisis and I personally have found him impossible to contact for weeks.
My husband has had a couple of troubling calls with him and ever increasingly evasive texts.
Yet I am able to separate what is happening in my life and the breakdown of a professional relationship and not condemn myself as solely responsible for that failure.
It takes two to tango
Many therapists share the general stigma that surrounds patients with borderline personality disorder (BPD). Some even avoid working with such patients because of the perception that they are difficult to treat.1 Mar 2016
If you find that your therapist is becoming a negative influence in your life it is ok to say ‘This is not working for me and, actually it not entirely my fault. Therapists are people too. They have problems, short-comings and get it wrong.
I know I tried hard and I am getting back into education, working on my marriage and moving house. All big stressful things but I do not carry any guilt or sense of failure that this therapeutic relationship did not last the course and maybe that in itself is progress.
borderline personality disorder 