borderline personality disorder

People with BPD are afraid that they are foul to their inner core and that if people get to know them they will leave them. Therefore they hide behind walls and bury their feelings and emotions and resign themselves to a lonely, terrifying existence. BPD sufferers do empathise with others and are all too aware of the pain they cause those close to them. Their emotions are so overwhelming that they explode in an uncontrollable destructive torrent that can hurt them and those they love. However, they do not intend to cause harm and have a great capacity for love and warmth. Successful relationships are possible but it does involve understanding and patience on the part of the non-BPD sufferer.

I myself am in a relationship which is happy almost all the time. We have our moments! What couple doesn’t? My partner says our relationship poses special challenges. He says there are times when he is afraid I am going to implode and he is worried that I will do myself serious damage. However, he also says it is most certainly well worth the extra effort involved. I for myself, am so very grateful to have found a man I love so much who is willing to put up with me. Of course what helps is thahe can be a complete pain in the arse too and if he should ask:-

‘why do I put up with you?’

I simply respond calmly:-

‘Because I put up with you……darling!’

My husband and I have been married nearly 5 years now. It has been far from plain sailing but we choose not to give up so we have scrambled the hurdles scarring our knees and shedding tears with the pain but we still find ways to come together and realize we do not want to be without the other wounded animal.