Another significant area of conflict I experienced in the mental health field was in respect to the Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), or, the more accurately labeled, “dangerous asshole that should be avoided like the plague.”
December 2, 2011 By
This is a quote I got online from a website put up by someone who was obviously psychologically scarred by a relationship that had gone wrong. How easy it is to condemn an entire population in anger?
I must emphasis that this was written by a self-confessed woman-hater who believes, wrongly that BPD is a female complaint or as he puts it:- ‘excuse’.
He also states in the same article:-
You don’t treat borderlines, you ignore them.
Sadly this kind of prejudice is not unique to a few uneducated people who for reasons of their own are unable to sustain a healthy relationship and do not want to responsibility for their own failings.
People with BPD usually lack a clear sense of who they are, and feel empty and inherently defective but they are capable of love and empathy. To simply dismiss them as bad or evil and to place all blame on the borderline when a relationship fails is to over simplify the situation in the extreme.
The non-borderline should question what attracted them to someone with such powerful needs, problems and low self-esteem in the first place. Because if you claim you didn’t know…..rubbish.
I have 2 failed marriages behind me. My first husband was a rescuer. I was the first woman he had ever been out with and he lacked confidence. He also felt that if he simply loved me I would become a non-borderline overnight.
My second husband was a violent psychopath who wanted someone vulnerable to control and manipulate.
Now I am in a relationship that, touch wood, is working. I work hard on a daily basis to take responsibility for my 
borderline behaviour and my partner is extremely patient. I struggle to control my emotions and continue to have problems with self-harm occasionally but I want this relationship in my life so I fight to use every tool I have in my box to make him and, therefore, me happy.
borderline personality disorder 